This scene has repeated itself at dinner for years: Brenda makes a great meal, I love it, and I tell her to make sure she keeps the recipe and makes it again. Then she doesn't do it. For decades (yes, that long) this goes on. I tell her exactly how to do it, too -- make a notebook with clear sleeves, save the recipe, and make notes on how you changed it and what you'd do different next time. She always says it's a good idea and she never does it.
It finally hits me: She likes looking for recipes and making new things.
Why did I want her to make a notebook and keep recipes? Because I like what she cooks and want more! And that's what I get without the notebook and saved recipes! What do I care if I've never had it before?
It's OK to do what has to be done in a way you enjoy most. And if someone wants to serve you, letting them do it the way they're wired to do it, with creativity and passion, is honoring to them and ends up better for you. Unless you like being a know-it-all control freak who eats out a lot.
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